10 Signs Your Cat Is Obsessed With You

Do you find yourself wondering if your love and adoration for your cat is unrequited? Do you feel like you are dishing out affection left right and center and getting nothing back? Fear not! This article is a deep dive into the many ways our cats secretly let slip that they are as obsessed with us as we are with them.

Cats are notoriously difficult to read. The common saying, “Dogs have owners and cats have slaves” is totally unfair to cats. They might go about things differently than their canine companions, but cats definitely do show love and affection in their own adorable way.

Why Is My Cat Obsessed With Me?

Pets all have different ways of letting us know how they feel. Hopefully, by the time you have finished reading this article, you will be a pro at understanding cat behavior and feel reassured that the subtle things your cat does are clues that you truly are their favorite human.

1. They Treat You Like a Fellow Cat

Cats form close bonds with the people who take care of their needs the most.

Cats often “imprint” on humans, forming a strong attachment with their primary caregiver when they recognize that this human offers them food, water, comfort, and safety. Your cat will warm to the person who they have the most positive interactions with. When this occurs your cat will treat you like an equal, the greatest honor in their eyes!

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2. They Rub Themselves Against You

When cats rub against you, they leave pheromones that claim you are “theirs.”

This is a sure sign your cat is obsessed with you, as when they do this they are stimulating special scent glands which release pheromones. Pheromones are chemical messages that are a signal for the cat that you are their human and they are claiming you as their own.

This is how cats mark out their territory, so they are affectionately putting their stamp of approval on you. Your cat might rub their cheeks or chin against you, or sometimes even headbutt you, which is a sign of affection in the cat world. Your cat might also softly touch their forehead against your face. Head bunting is another good sign your cat worships you.

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3. They Make Eye Contact and Slowly Blink

Gazing at you and blinking slowly is the cat equivalent of a smile and a kiss.

This sounds very specific, but it’s true, a cat’s soft, slow blink is essentially the equivalent of a cat kiss! Slow blinking is recognized as the most common way cats show their affection toward humans.

Slow blinking is a cat’s unique way of smiling. It means they feel safe and relaxed around you. Cats are thought to respond to slow blinking from humans. The next time you are having one-on-one time with your cat, give them a slow blink and see if it is reciprocated. If it is, you know for sure you are a VIP in their eyes.

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4. They Use You as a Chair or a Bed

Climbing up on you for a cuddle and snooze means your cat loves and trusts you.

This is a huge compliment in the cat world. Cats need to feel secure and safe when they go to sleep. If they readily curl up in your lap, or on your chest in bed, then this means you are their safe place.

They are most happy and content when they have physical contact with you. An added bonus of being a human pillow is that you get a purring hot water bottle to keep you warm and snug.

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5. Kneading You With Their Paws

Kneading your lap or legs, sometimes called making biscuits, is something cats do when they are relaxed and content.

Cats often press their front paws into your leg or tummy as if they are kneading bread. This is them replicating what they did when they were nursing kittens and they wanted to encourage milk flow from their mother.

Adult cats still carry out this behavior long after they have been weaned. They often do this to show pleasure or contentment. If they are doing this when they are relaxed on your lap, you can rest assured they are letting you know they feel happy and content in your presence.

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6. They Groom You

Cats groom other cats as a form of social bonding, and it’s likely they do this to humans for the same reason.

If your cat takes it upon themselves to lick you, especially your hair or ears, they are trying to groom you. In multi-cat households, group grooming sessions are a sign of trust and loyalty. Licking is a gesture that says your cat thinks you are a member of their social group and they accept you as family.

This is one of the ways your cat shows you that you have a strong bond together. (Whether you actually embrace the cat tongue bath or not is up to you—there’s no judgment here if you enjoy those cat kisses!)

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7. They Follow You Around the House

Cats follow the people they love as they want to be part of everything they do.

If your cat follows you around the house, sometimes even to the bathroom, it’s not some sort of secret kitty surveillance. This is actually another indication that they are truly obsessed with you. It’s their way of showing you they always want to be in your company and is a sign of love in cat language.

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8. They Bring You Gifts

Leaving gifts of toys or dead critters is your cat’s unique way of saying they love you.

Cats love bringing their favorite people gifts. Sometimes this can be presenting their best toy or comforter. Sometimes they like to bring you some prey they have hunted to “share” with you such as a mouse or bird. It’s their way of saying you are part of their family and they want you to be involved with something that brings them joy.

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9. They Purr a Lot

Most often, cats purr as a sign of happiness.

Cats do purr for many different reasons. If your cat is purring and nuzzling into you when you are stroking them, you can be sure that this is a very content purr and they are pleased to be in your company.  This is their way of letting you know they are very happy.

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10. They Show You Their Belly

If your cat routinely rolls over to show their belly, you can be certain the trust you completely.

Cats have a universal code of showing vulnerability/submission, which is rolling into their backs and exposing their belly. This is due to the fact it is soft and lots of their vital organs are unprotected when they do this.

If your cat trusts you and is completely relaxed in your company, they will do this, and might even allow you to rub or tickle their belly. So if you see your cat on their back, give them some attention as it’s a great honor to be shown the belly.

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How Do I Stop My Cat From Obsessing Over Me?

One thing you can do is provide engaging toys and interactive play to keep your cat occupied. Another thing you can do is establish a consistent routine and gradually increase the time they spend alone to build their independence.

Remember cats are very complex animals. Their social interactions with us are difficult to interpret at times and can leave us feeling confused. It’s reassuring to know that there are lots of different ways cats show us how they feel, and no two cats are the same.

The main thing to remember is that a loved cat with a safe and secure relationship is a happy and content one, so keep up the good work!

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